Whose child is it? – Secondary School Edition
This is a Message To Parents of School Age Black Children:
All education begins at home and should continue throughout a person’s life. If you totally depend on school teachers to educate your child then your child is probably going to suffer.
No teacher should care about your child’s development more than you, the parent. You are the child’s first and last teacher. That is an honorable responsibility.
By the time your kids reach Middle school they are already capable of being a “Credit To Their Race” or a “Menace To Society”. Either way, she or he is still Your Child.
There are people in this country who want you and your children to stay the way all humans are born, uneducated and uninformed. A Black person once could be legally punished or killed for getting an education. Nowadays some of us volunteer to be as ignorant as certain others want us to be. “Ignorance” in adults is its own punishment.
Make sure your children learn, in school and at home because that cures ignorance. Don’t send them off to school to show their ass (or clothes), be seen, be thugs or “ho’s”, act the fool, participate in some gangster business, or anything else not in tune with leading a productive life. No child will be scarred for life because you spent money and time on developing their “mind muscle”.
As you can see on the graph above, childhood is only a short season which will soon end. Prepare your offspring for adulthood, not perpetual childhood. Be the type of adult and parent you want them to be. Broaden their view of the world. If that means you have to educate yourself, do it.
Go to your child’s school and ask what resources they have to help with your child’s educational goals. Require your child to study and graduate from high school. That diploma will have their name on it, not yours.
Let your children know that only smart, well-prepared adults are in demand. Lots of people have successful lives without college educations, but not without continual learning in the fields that society needs. Who wants a no-count, grown-ass man or woman dragging them down?
Most “Big Money” is made in the legitimate business world, not in criminal activities. Yes, that is true and they will usually live longer too. If your children are turned on by “Fame” encourage them to be famous for doing good things.
Unless your family is already wealthy, your children will have to use their brains and common sense to make it in this world. Help them to develop both of these essential tools for life.
Shared thoughts from Stephen Maddox Sr.,
Former school teacher and still parent of grown-assed children.